My Mom is like Erica Kane

When I was 5 or 6 my mom reminded me of Diana Ross. They looked a lot a like, really glamorous. But at that point in my life my mom had only been married once. Fast forward 20+ years and she is now up to number 5 marriage. Seems like a lot, huh? Well that is because it is a lot! Now when people ask me about my mother and what she is like I still say she looks like Diana Ross but she is more like Erica Kane from All my Children. Each marriage and each divorce has a great story behind it (and yes, she has even married the same guy twice and one marriage that lasted two weeks), but I won't get into that. But what I will say is that for me as a child with a mother that is addicted to marriage, getting married was something that I really took a long time to consider. Mr Butterscotch and I dated for a long time and neither of us were in a rush to get married. At some points neither of us were sure if we ever wanted to get married. I know everyone says they go into marriage thinking "OK this is it forever". But we know forever isn't always forever. People grow apart, people change and love changes. As it is right now Mr Butterscotch and I have been dating longer than any of my mother marriages. While we dated we really took time to let each other grow up together and apart and figure out what we each really wanted in life. Now we both feel very prepared for marriage and what is yet to come.
How did you and your fiance prepare for the "til death dues us part" while you were dating? Do you know any Erica Kanes, and what have you learned from them?